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【外がい国こく人じん女じょ性せいAさん】紹しょう介かいしていただいた相あい手てと初はじめて二ふた人りで会あった後のち、「また会あいましょう」と相あい手てから誘さそわれたまま連れん絡らくがなくなって、こちらから連れん絡らくを取とってみると断ことわってくるっていうパターンが結構けっこうありました。本ほん音ねがわかりません。時とき々どき違い和わ感かんを覚おぼえます。

【日本人にっぽんじん女じょ性せいBさん】そういうことありますよね。単たん純じゅんに別わかれ際ぎわの「また会あいましょう」なんて、最さい初しょから社しゃ交こう辞じ令れいとしか受うけ取とれないですよ...「今こん度どまた飲のみにいきましょうか。」も同おなじパターン。その場ばで「あなたに興きょう味みがありません。次つぎ会あうのはちょっと。。すみません」ではなく、遠とお回まわしで断ことわることが、相あい手てへの配はい慮りょなのだと思おもう人ひともいるからです。逆ぎゃくに、やはり本ほん気きでまた会あいたいなら、次つぎの約やく束そくはその場ばで入いれるはずです。

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Vocabulary2 words
  • 本音ほんね
    • ·real intention; motive; true opinion; what one really thinks
    N1
  • 配慮はいりょ
    • ·consideration; concern; attention; thoughtfulness; making arrangements; care; trouble
    N1
Other levels49 words
  • 外国人がいこくじん
    • ·foreigner; foreign citizen; foreign national; alien; non-Japanese
    N5
  • するAs it appears here: して
    • ·to do; to carry out; to perform
    • ·to cause to become; to make (into); to turn (into)
    • ·to serve as; to act as; to work as
    • ·to wear (clothes, a facial expression, etc.)
    • ·to judge as being; to view as being; to think of as; to treat as; to use as
    • ·to decide on; to choose
    • ·to be sensed (of a smell, noise, etc.)
    • ·to be (in a state, condition, etc.)
    • ·to be worth; to cost
    • ·to pass (of time); to elapse
    • ·to place, or raise, person A to a post or status B
    • ·to transform A to B; to make A into B; to exchange A for B
    • ·to make use of A for B; to view A as B; to handle A as if it were B
    • ·to feel A about B
    • ·verbalizing suffix (applies to nouns noted in this dictionary with the part of speech "vs")
    • ·creates a humble verb (after a noun prefixed with "o" or "go")
    • ·to be just about to; to be just starting to; to try to; to attempt to
    N5
  • 初めてはじめて
    • ·for the first time
    • ·only after ... is it ...; only when ... do you ...; not until ... do you ...
    • ·first time; (one's) first
    N5
  • 二人ふたり
    • ·two persons; two people; pair; couple
    N5
  • 会うあうAs it appears here: 会った
    • ·to meet; to encounter; to see
    • ·to have an accident; to have a bad experience
    N5
  • また
    • ·again; once more; once again; another time; some other time
    • ·also; too; as well; likewise
    • ·on the other hand; while
    • ·and; in addition; besides; moreover; furthermore
    • ·or; otherwise
    • ·really; how; (what, why) on earth
    • ·some time (in the future)
    • ·indirect
    N5
  • 会うあうAs it appears here: 会いましょう
    • ·to meet; to encounter; to see
    • ·to have an accident; to have a bad experience
    N5
  • こちら
    • ·this way; this direction
    • ·here
    • ·this (one)
    • ·I; me; we; us
    • ·this person
    N5
  • 取るとるAs it appears here: 取って
    • ·to take; to pick up; to grab; to catch; to hold
    • ·to pass; to hand; to give
    • ·to get; to obtain; to acquire; to win; to receive; to earn; to take (e.g. a vacation)
    • ·to adopt (a method, proposal, etc.); to take (a measure, attitude, etc.); to choose
    • ·to remove; to get rid of; to take off
    • ·to take away; to steal; to rob
    • ·to eat; to have (e.g. lunch); to take (e.g. vitamins)
    • ·to pick (e.g. flowers); to gather; to extract (e.g. juice); to catch (e.g. fish); to harvest (a crop)
    • ·to take up (time, space); to occupy; to spare; to set aside
    • ·to secure; to reserve; to save; to put aside; to keep
    • ·to take (e.g. a joke); to interpret; to understand; to make out; to grasp
    • ·to record; to take down
    • ·to subscribe to (e.g. a newspaper); to take; to buy; to get
    • ·to order; to have delivered
    • ·to charge; to fine; to take (tax)
    • ·to take (e.g. a wife); to take on (e.g. an apprentice); to adopt; to accept
    • ·to take control of; to take (the rudder)
    • ·to compete (in sumo, cards, etc.); to play
    N5
  • 結構けっこう
    • ·splendid; nice; wonderful; delightful; lovely; excellent; fine
    • ·sufficient; satisfactory; enough; fine; all right; OK
    • ·not needing (any more of something); (already) having enough; fine (as in "I'm fine"); no, thank you
    • ·rather; quite; fairly; pretty; surprisingly; quite a bit; fairly well
    • ·structure; construction; framework; architecture
    N5
  • あるAs it appears here: ありました
    • ·to be; to exist; to live
    • ·to have
    • ·to be located
    • ·to be equipped with
    • ·to happen; to come about
    • ·to exist (in a completed state); to be (something unchanged in its current state)
    N5
  • わかるAs it appears here: わかりません
    • ·to understand; to comprehend; to grasp; to see; to get; to follow
    • ·to become clear; to be known; to be discovered; to be realized (realised); to be found out; to make sense
    • ·I know!; I think so too!
    N5
  • 時々ときどき
    • ·sometimes; occasionally; at times; from time to time; now and then; once in a while; at intervals
    • ·seasonal; of the season; appropriate (for the season or occasion)
    N5
  • 覚えるおぼえるAs it appears here: 覚えます
    • ·to memorize; to memorise; to commit to memory; to learn by heart; to bear in mind; to remember
    • ·to learn; to pick up; to acquire
    • ·to feel
    • ·to think; to regard
    N5
  • あるAs it appears here: あります
    • ·to be; to exist; to live
    • ·to have
    • ·to be located
    • ·to be equipped with
    • ·to happen; to come about
    • ·to exist (in a completed state); to be (something unchanged in its current state)
    N5
  • 飲むのむAs it appears here: 飲み
    • ·to drink; to swallow; to take (medicine)
    • ·to smoke (tobacco)
    • ·to swallow up; to engulf
    • ·to suppress (one's anger, bitter feelings, etc.); to keep down; to hold back; to swallow (one's tears); to catch (one's breath)
    • ·to accept (a demand, conditions, etc.); to agree to
    • ·to make light of (someone); to think nothing of; to overwhelm; to overawe
    • ·to carry (a concealed dagger, etc.); to conceal (up one's sleeve, etc.)
    N5
  • いくAs it appears here: いきましょう
    • ·to go; to move (towards); to head (towards); to leave (for)
    • ·to move through; to travel across; to walk along (e.g. a road)
    • ·to go (well, badly, etc.); to proceed; to turn out; to get along
    • ·to do (in a particular way); to go (with; a choice); to try
    • ·to pass (of time, seasons, etc.); to go by
    • ·to stream; to flow
    • ·to die; to pass away
    • ·to reach (a stage, extent, age, etc.); to get to; to go (so far as ...)
    • ·to reach (of information, instructions, wind, etc.); to arrive
    • ·to continue ...; to go on ...; to (progress) steadily; to gradually ...; to progressively ...
    • ·to have an orgasm; to come; to cum
    • ·to trip; to get high; to have a drug-induced hallucination
    N5
  • 同じおなじ
    • ·same; identical; equal; alike; equivalent
    • ·anyway; in any case; if one must ...; if one has to ...; as long as ...
    N5
  • その
    • ·that; the
    • ·part (as in "part two")
    • ·um ...; er ...; uh ...
    N5
  • あなた
    • ·you
    • ·dear; honey
    N5
  • あるAs it appears here: ありません
    • ·to be; to exist; to live
    • ·to have
    • ·to be located
    • ·to be equipped with
    • ·to happen; to come about
    • ·to exist (in a completed state); to be (something unchanged in its current state)
    N5
  • 次つぎ
    • ·next; following; subsequent
    • ·stage; station
    N5
  • 会うあう
    • ·to meet; to encounter; to see
    • ·to have an accident; to have a bad experience
    N5
  • ちょっと
    • ·a little; a bit; slightly
    • ·just a minute; for a moment; briefly
    • ·somewhat; rather; fairly; pretty; quite
    • ·(not) easily; (not) readily
    • ·hey!; come on; excuse me
    • ·thanks, but no; not feasible; not possible
    • ·a little more than (a week, month, etc.); slightly more than
    N5
  • 人ひと
    • ·person; someone; somebody
    • ·human beings; mankind; man; people; humans
    • ·human (Homo sapiens)
    • ·(other) people; others
    • ·character; personality; nature
    • ·capable person; competent person; suitable person; right person
    • ·adult; grown-up
    • ·I; me; one
    N5
  • いる
    • ·to be (of animate objects); to exist
    • ·to stay
    • ·to be ...-ing
    • ·to have ...-ed; to be ...-ed
    N5
  • 会うあうAs it appears here: 会いたい
    • ·to meet; to encounter; to see
    • ·to have an accident; to have a bad experience
    N5
  • 入れるいれる
    • ·to put in; to let in; to take in; to bring in; to insert; to install (e.g. software); to set (a jewel, etc.); to ink in (e.g. tattoo)
    • ·to admit; to accept; to employ; to hire
    • ·to accept; to comply; to grant; to adopt (a policy, etc.); to take (advice, etc.); to listen to; to pay attention to
    • ·to include
    • ·to pay (one's rent, etc.)
    • ·to cast (a vote)
    • ·to make (tea, coffee, etc.)
    • ·to turn on (a switch, etc.)
    • ·to send (a fax); to call
    N5
  • 女性じょせい
    • ·woman; female
    • ·feminine gender
    N4
  • 紹介しょうかい
    • ·introduction; presentation; referral; showcase (of a product)
    N4
  • 連絡れんらく
    • ·contacting; (making) contact; getting in touch; communication; correspondence; call; message
    • ·connection (with a train, bus, etc.); joining (a railway line, etc.); meeting
    • ·connection (between matters, incidents, etc.); relation; link
    N4
  • なくなるAs it appears here: なくなって
    • ·to be lost (e.g. luggage); to be missing
    • ·to be used up; to be run out; to be exhausted; to be consumed; to be reduced to zero; to not occur any more
    • ·to disappear (e.g. pain); to be lost (e.g. a dream, confidence)
    N4
  • 最初さいしょ
    • ·beginning; outset; first; onset
    N4
  • 今度こんど
    • ·this time; now
    • ·next time; another time; shortly; soon
    • ·recently; lately; the other day
    N4
  • 興味きょうみ
    • ·interest (in something); curiosity (about something); zest (for)
    N4
  • 思うおもう
    • ·to think; to consider; to believe; to reckon
    • ·to think (of doing); to plan (to do)
    • ·to judge; to assess; to regard
    • ·to imagine; to suppose; to dream
    • ·to expect; to look forward to
    • ·to feel; to be (in a state of mind); to desire; to want
    • ·to care (deeply) for; to yearn for; to worry about; to love
    • ·to recall; to remember
    N4
  • 約束やくそく
    • ·promise; agreement; arrangement; one's word; contract; pact
    • ·appointment; engagement; date
    • ·convention; rule
    • ·destiny; fate
    N4
  • はず
    • ·should (be); bound (to be); expected (to be); must (be)
    • ·nock (of a bow)
    • ·nock (of an arrow)
    • ·nock-shaped grip (between thumb and forefinger)
    • ·wooden frame on the tip of the mast of a Japanese ship that prevents the hawser from falling out
    N4
  • 相手あいて
    • ·companion; partner; company
    • ·other party; addressee; counterparty
    • ·opponent (sports, etc.)
    N3
  • 後のち
    • ·later; afterwards
    • ·future
    • ·after one's death
    • ·descendant
    N3
  • 誘うさそうAs it appears here: 誘われた
    • ·to invite; to ask (someone to do); to call (for); to take (someone) along
    • ·to tempt; to lure; to entice; to seduce
    • ·to induce (tears, laughter, sleepiness, etc.); to arouse (e.g. sympathy); to provoke
    N3
  • 断ることわるAs it appears here: 断って
    • ·to refuse; to reject; to dismiss; to turn down; to decline
    • ·to inform; to give notice; to ask in advance (and get approval); to get permission
    • ·to ask leave; to excuse oneself (from)
    N3
  • こと
    • ·thing; matter
    • ·incident; occurrence; event; something serious; trouble; crisis
    • ·circumstances; situation; state of affairs
    • ·work; business; affair
    • ·after an inflectable word, creates a noun phrase indicating something the speaker does not feel close to
    • ·nominalizing suffix
    • ·pretending to ...; playing make-believe ...
    • ·alias; also known as; otherwise known as; or
    • ·necessity; need
    • ·you should ...; I advise that you ...; it's important to ...
    N3
  • 単純たんじゅん
    • ·simple; plain; uncomplicated; straightforward; simple-minded; naive
    N3
  • 受け取れるうけとれるAs it appears here: 受け取れない
    • ·to receive; to get; to accept
    • ·to take (someone's words or behaviour); to interpret; to understand
    N3
  • 場ば
    • ·place; spot; space
    • ·field; discipline; sphere; realm
    • ·occasion; situation
    • ·scene (of a play, movie, etc.)
    • ·session
    • ·field; table; area in which cards are laid out
    • ·round (east, south, etc.)
    • ·field
    • ·field (in Gestalt psychology)
    N3
  • すみません
    • ·excuse me; pardon me; I'm sorry; I beg your pardon
    • ·thank you; you shouldn't have; it's too much
    N3
  • 断ることわる
    • ·to refuse; to reject; to dismiss; to turn down; to decline
    • ·to inform; to give notice; to ask in advance (and get approval); to get permission
    • ·to ask leave; to excuse oneself (from)
    N3
  • やはり
    • ·as expected; sure enough; just as one thought
    • ·after all (is said and done); in the end; as one would expect; in any case
    • ·too; also; as well; likewise; (not) either
    • ·still; as before
    • ·all the same; even so; still; nonetheless
    N3
Grammar1 patterns

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  • だの～だのN1

    Reduplicated listing particle citing examples with a tone of complaint or exasperation ("what with X and Y and all that").

    すみません」ではなく、遠回しで断ることが、相手への配慮なのだと思う人もいるからです。

    Sorry" — instead of that, some people think a roundabout refusal is the considerate thing to do.

Other levels13 patterns
  • 逆に（ぎゃくに）N2

    Signals that what follows runs opposite to what was just said or expected — 'on the contrary', 'conversely', 'the other way around'.

    逆に、やはり本気でまた会いたいなら、次の約束はその場で入れるはずです。

    Conversely, if they genuinely want to meet again, they will fix the next date there and then.

  • ままN3

    Expresses that a state is left unchanged while something else is done or happens; 'as it is / while still (in that state).'

    【外国人女性Aさん】紹介していただいた相手と初めて二人で会った後、「また会いましょう」と相手から誘われたまま連絡がなくなって、こちらから連絡を取ってみると断ってくるっていうパターンが結構ありました。

    [A, a woman from abroad] After meeting someone I had been introduced to for the first time, they would say "let's meet again" and then go quiet; when I got in touch myself they would turn me down. That pattern happened quite a lot.

  • なんか/なんて/などN3

    A particle that cites an example or downplays/dismisses it — "things like / such as / (of all things)".

    単純に別れ際の「また会いましょう」なんて、最初から社交辞令としか受け取れないですよ...「今度また飲みにいきましょうか。」

    A "let's meet again" as you part is only ever going to read as a social nicety… "Shall we go for a drink again sometime?"

  • 〜てみるN4

    Verb te-form plus 見る, doing something on a trial basis to see what happens — 'try ...ing'.

    【外国人女性Aさん】紹介していただいた相手と初めて二人で会った後、「また会いましょう」と相手から誘われたまま連絡がなくなって、こちらから連絡を取ってみると断ってくるっていうパターンが結構ありました。

    [A, a woman from abroad] After meeting someone I had been introduced to for the first time, they would say "let's meet again" and then go quiet; when I got in touch myself they would turn me down. That pattern happened quite a lot.

  • 〜てくるN4

    Verb te-form plus 来る, marking motion toward the speaker or the gradual onset of a state — 'come to do' / 'start to / become'.

    【外国人女性Aさん】紹介していただいた相手と初めて二人で会った後、「また会いましょう」と相手から誘われたまま連絡がなくなって、こちらから連絡を取ってみると断ってくるっていうパターンが結構ありました。

    [A, a woman from abroad] After meeting someone I had been introduced to for the first time, they would say "let's meet again" and then go quiet; when I got in touch myself they would turn me down. That pattern happened quite a lot.

  • と思う（とおもう）N4

    Quotative plus 'think', stating the speaker's opinion or guess — 'I think that'.

    すみません」ではなく、遠回しで断ることが、相手への配慮なのだと思う人もいるからです。

    Sorry" — instead of that, some people think a roundabout refusal is the considerate thing to do.

  • はずだN4

    Expresses the speaker's reasoned confidence that something is or should be the case — 'should, ought to, is supposed to'.

    逆に、やはり本気でまた会いたいなら、次の約束はその場で入れるはずです。

    Conversely, if they genuinely want to meet again, they will fix the next date there and then.

  • 〜ましょうN52 times in this passage

    A polite invitation or suggestion to do something together — “let's do”.

    【外国人女性Aさん】紹介していただいた相手と初めて二人で会った後、「また会いましょう」と相手から誘われたまま連絡がなくなって、こちらから連絡を取ってみると断ってくるっていうパターンが結構ありました。

    [A, a woman from abroad] After meeting someone I had been introduced to for the first time, they would say "let's meet again" and then go quiet; when I got in touch myself they would turn me down. That pattern happened quite a lot.

  • だ / ですN52 times in this passage

    The copula linking a noun or na-adjective to the subject — plain だ / polite です, 'is/am/are'.

    単純に別れ際の「また会いましょう」なんて、最初から社交辞令としか受け取れないですよ...「今度また飲みにいきましょうか。」

    A "let's meet again" as you part is only ever going to read as a social nicety… "Shall we go for a drink again sometime?"

  • ましょうかN5

    An offer to do something or a tentative suggestion, "shall I...?" / "shall we...?"

    単純に別れ際の「また会いましょう」なんて、最初から社交辞令としか受け取れないですよ...「今度また飲みにいきましょうか。」

    A "let's meet again" as you part is only ever going to read as a social nicety… "Shall we go for a drink again sometime?"

  • がありますN5

    States the existence or possession of an inanimate thing, "there is / to have".

    その場で「あなたに興味がありません。

    Saying to their face, "I am not interested in you.

  • じゃない・ではないN5

    Negates a noun or na-adjective with the copula, "is not / am not".

    すみません」ではなく、遠回しで断ることが、相手への配慮なのだと思う人もいるからです。

    Sorry" — instead of that, some people think a roundabout refusal is the considerate thing to do.

  • 〜たいN5

    Expresses the speaker's own desire to do something — “want to do”.

    逆に、やはり本気でまた会いたいなら、次の約束はその場で入れるはずです。

    Conversely, if they genuinely want to meet again, they will fix the next date there and then.

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