人を不愉快な気持ちにさせないように、反論もせず、自分の不快な気持ちも伝えないで黙っていると、相手はあなたを理解するチャンスを失い、互いに自分らしくつきあうことができなくなるでしょう。
もちろん、相手も自分の気持ちや考えを表現してよいので、そこで葛藤(注)が起きることもあります。
ただ、葛藤や違いが明らかになることを避けて、親、上司、先生に意見を言わなかったり、支援を頼めなかったりすると、その場は何事もなく進むかもしれませんが、誤解のうえに人間関係が作られていくことになります。
(平木典子「アサーション入門-自分も相手も大切にする自己表現法」による)
(注)葛藤:ここでは、対立
AI translation, cross-checked between two models.
If, in order not to make someone feel uncomfortable, you remain silent without objecting or expressing your own discomfort, the other person will lose the chance to understand you, and the two of you will no longer be able to relate to each other as your true selves.
Of course, the other person is also free to express their feelings and thoughts, so conflicts may arise.(注)
However, if you avoid making conflicts or differences clear by not expressing your opinions to your parents, supervisors, or teachers, or by being unable to ask them for support, things may proceed without incident at the time, but the relationship will come to be built on misunderstandings.
(Based on Hiraki Noriko, “Introduction to Assertion: A Method of Self-Expression That Values Both Yourself and Others”)
(Note) Conflict: here, opposition
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