だれだって、他人のいいところは真似したいと思うから。

After all, everyone wants to imitate the good qualities of others.

（注1）話が宙に消える：話が途中でどこかへ行ってしまう

(Note 1) A story disappears into thin air: the story goes off somewhere before it is finished

「あの人は、私が話し始めて一分とたたないうちに、話題を自分の話にすりかえてしまう」と言われる人のなかには、決して聞き上手ではないけれど、不思議と嫌われない人がいる。

Among those who are described as “That person switches the subject to their own story before even a minute has passed since I started talking,” there are some who are by no means good listeners yet, strangely enough, are not disliked.

「あの人は、私が話し始めて一分とたたないうちに、話題を自分の話にすりかえてしまう」と言われる人のなかには、決して聞き上手ではないけれど、不思議と嫌われない人がいる。

Among those who are described as “That person switches the subject to their own story before even a minute has passed since I started talking,” there are some who are by no means good listeners yet, strangely enough, are not disliked.

「あの人は、私が話し始めて一分とたたないうちに、話題を自分の話にすりかえてしまう」と言われる人のなかには、決して聞き上手ではないけれど、不思議と嫌われない人がいる。

Among those who are described as “That person switches the subject to their own story before even a minute has passed since I started talking,” there are some who are by no means good listeners yet, strangely enough, are not disliked.

私の話が宙に消えてもしょうがないか」という寛容な気持ちになるのだろう。

I suppose it can't be helped if my story just disappears into thin air.”

もちろん、私は「だから、話上手になればいいんですよ」とは言わない。

Of course, I am not saying, “So, you should just become a good talker.”

聞き上手になるための“修業”をしていると、そのうち話の上手な人の特徴がわかってくると思う。

As you train yourself to become a good listener, I think you will gradually come to recognize the characteristics of people who are good at talking.

（斉藤茂太『どんなグズもなおる本－17タイプ別グズ解消法』による）

(Based on Saitou Shigeta, “A Book That Can Cure Any Dawdler — Solutions for 17 Types of Dawdling”)

「あの人は、私が話し始めて一分とたたないうちに、話題を自分の話にすりかえてしまう」と言われる人のなかには、決して聞き上手ではないけれど、不思議と嫌われない人がいる。

Among those who are described as “That person switches the subject to their own story before even a minute has passed since I started talking,” there are some who are by no means good listeners yet, strangely enough, are not disliked.

話を奪われた人も、「私の話よりずっとおもしろそう。

Perhaps the person whose story has been taken over also becomes tolerant and thinks, “That sounds much more interesting than my story.

ただ、「聞き上手でないことが帳消しになるほど話上手な人のしゃべりは、ちょっと研究してみる価値がありますよ」とご提案したい。

I would simply like to suggest, “The way people speak when they are so good at talking that it cancels out their poor listening skills is worth studying a little.”

聞き上手になるための“修業”をしていると、そのうち話の上手な人の特徴がわかってくると思う。

As you train yourself to become a good listener, I think you will gradually come to recognize the characteristics of people who are good at talking.

聞き上手になるための“修業”をしていると、そのうち話の上手な人の特徴がわかってくると思う。

As you train yourself to become a good listener, I think you will gradually come to recognize the characteristics of people who are good at talking.

その勉強の成果は必ずや、自分の言動に投影されるはずだ。

The results of that study will surely be reflected in your own words and actions.

「あの人は、私が話し始めて一分とたたないうちに、話題を自分の話にすりかえてしまう」と言われる人のなかには、決して聞き上手ではないけれど、不思議と嫌われない人がいる。

Among those who are described as “That person switches the subject to their own story before even a minute has passed since I started talking,” there are some who are by no means good listeners yet, strangely enough, are not disliked.

「あの人は、私が話し始めて一分とたたないうちに、話題を自分の話にすりかえてしまう」と言われる人のなかには、決して聞き上手ではないけれど、不思議と嫌われない人がいる。

Among those who are described as “That person switches the subject to their own story before even a minute has passed since I started talking,” there are some who are by no means good listeners yet, strangely enough, are not disliked.

私の話が宙に消えてもしょうがないか」という寛容な気持ちになるのだろう。

I suppose it can't be helped if my story just disappears into thin air.”

もちろん、私は「だから、話上手になればいいんですよ」とは言わない。

Of course, I am not saying, “So, you should just become a good talker.”

ただ、「聞き上手でないことが帳消しになるほど話上手な人のしゃべりは、ちょっと研究してみる価値がありますよ」とご提案したい。

I would simply like to suggest, “The way people speak when they are so good at talking that it cancels out their poor listening skills is worth studying a little.”

ただ、「聞き上手でないことが帳消しになるほど話上手な人のしゃべりは、ちょっと研究してみる価値がありますよ」とご提案したい。

I would simply like to suggest, “The way people speak when they are so good at talking that it cancels out their poor listening skills is worth studying a little.”

聞き上手になるための“修業”をしていると、そのうち話の上手な人の特徴がわかってくると思う。

As you train yourself to become a good listener, I think you will gradually come to recognize the characteristics of people who are good at talking.

聞き上手から、話上手でもあるというプラスアルファの魅力を持つ人間へとステップアップするには、いつの間にか相手を自分の話に引きこむのが上手な人の話ぶりを、「それはなぜなのか」と自分なりに分析すると、とても勉強になるのだ。

To progress from being a good listener to becoming someone with the added appeal of also being a good talker, it is highly instructive to analyze in your own way, asking “Why is that?”, the manner of speaking of people who skillfully draw others into their own stories before they realize it.

聞き上手から、話上手でもあるというプラスアルファの魅力を持つ人間へとステップアップするには、いつの間にか相手を自分の話に引きこむのが上手な人の話ぶりを、「それはなぜなのか」と自分なりに分析すると、とても勉強になるのだ。

To progress from being a good listener to becoming someone with the added appeal of also being a good talker, it is highly instructive to analyze in your own way, asking “Why is that?”, the manner of speaking of people who skillfully draw others into their own stories before they realize it.

どんな話しぶりに惹かれる？」と疑問をぶつけてみるのもいい。

What is it about the way they talk that attracts you?”