もしただいま大恋愛の最中だったら、本など読むことをおすすめしない。とくに恋愛小説など、間違っても読んじゃいけない。たとえバルザックの「谷間のゆり」のような純愛小説の傑作をもってきても、トルストイの「アンナ・カレーニナ」のような不倫小説の傑作をもってきても、あなたが現に夢中でうちこんでいる恋愛の生なましい体験に比べたら、色あせてしまうにちがいないからだ。
また恋愛中の相手の恋人に、本の話など仕掛けてはいけない。たとえば遊園地に行って黙って恋人とジェット・コースターに乗って遊ぶことに比べたら、ずっと不毛なお喋りにすぎないからだ。
だがおなじ本を読むことでも、おなじ本の話でもいいからやってみたほうがいい。もしも恋愛が峠をこえたと思えたり、これは失敗だったと思えたりしたときには。
本には恋愛の終りや失恋の辛さを、もとに返す力はないが、あなたの恋愛の終りや失恋をもう一度、あなたが体験したよりもっと巨きく、もっと深く体験させてくれる力があるからだ。
AI translation, cross-checked between two models.
If you are currently in the midst of a passionate love affair, I would not recommend reading books. Above all, you should never make the mistake of reading a romance novel. For even if you were given a masterpiece of pure love such as Balzac’s “The Lily of the Valley,” or a masterpiece about adultery such as Tolstoy’s “Anna Karenina,” it would surely pale beside the vivid experience of the love in which you yourself are now completely absorbed.
Nor should you try to start talking about books with the person you are in love with. Compared with going to an amusement park and simply riding a roller coaster with your lover without saying much, such talk is nothing more than a far more unproductive conversation.
But even if it is only a matter of reading the same book or talking about the same book, it is worth giving it a try. That is, when you feel that the relationship has passed its peak, or that it has been a failure.
Books do not have the power to undo the end of a love affair or the pain of heartbreak, but they do have the power to make you experience your lost love and its ending once again, on a larger and deeper scale than you experienced them yourself.
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