僕は学校が好きだった。毎日わくわくしながら学校に通ったものだ。学校にはいやな奴も大勢いたが、好きな友達がそれ以上沢山いたからである。向こうは僕のことをどう思っていたのかは分からないが、構わなかった。僕はかってに彼らのことを友達だと思っていたのである。
友達を作る、とよく言う。あの頃先生や親は僕によく「いい友達をいっぱい作りなさい。」と言っていた。僕は彼らがそう言うたびに①「それは違う。」と心の中で反発(注1)したものだった。友達は作るものじゃない、と今でも思っている。友達を作るなんて第一友達に対して失礼だと思った。第二に作った友達は偽物のような気がしたのだ。
僕は友達は作るものではなく、自然に出来るものなのだと思う。僕にも友達が出来なくて辛い時期があったけれど、僕は決して友達を作ろうとはしなかった。つまり無理して誰かに合わせたりしてつきあうことはなかったのだ。僕はいつも自然にしていた。大人になってから、ああ、あの頃あいつは僕の友達だったのだな、と思い知らされた(注2)奴もいた。その頃は喧嘩ばっかりしていたからである。後になってそうやって分かる友達もまたいいものだ。
(中略)
大人になった今、僕は学校を失ってしまった。毎日楽しみにしていた学校はもうない。社会にでてから今日まで、僕は孤独に仕事をしてきた。それでも一生懸命仕事がやれたのは、ふりかえると僕には素晴らしい仲間たちが大勢いたからなのだ。②彼らと過ごした自然な日々は、僕の人生において大いなる大地となっている。そして僕はそこからすくすくと伸びる一本の木なのだ。僕の根っこは彼らと繋がり、僕は空を目指している。
(辻仁成『そこに僕はいた』による)
(注1)反発する:反抗して、受け付けない
(注2)思い知らされる:強く思わされる
AI translation, cross-checked between two models.
I used to love school. Every day, I would go to school full of excitement. There were plenty of people I disliked at school, but there were even more friends whom I liked. I did not know what they thought of me, but I did not care. I simply regarded them as my friends, whether they agreed or not.
People often talk about “making friends.” Back then, my teachers and parents often told me, “Make lots of good friends.” Whenever they said that, I would protest inwardly, “That’s not right.”(注1) Even now, I still believe that friends are not something you “make.” First of all, I felt that saying you had “made” a friend was disrespectful to the friend. Second, I felt that a friend deliberately “made” in that way seemed somehow fake.
I believe that friends are not something you make; friendship is something that develops naturally. I too went through painful periods when I had no friends, but I never tried to “make” friends. In other words, I never forced myself to conform to someone else just so that I could associate with them. I always simply acted naturally and remained myself. After I became an adult, there were also people who made me realize, “Ah, so that guy really was my friend back then.”(注2) That was because, at the time, we did almost nothing but quarrel and fight. Friends whom you only recognize as such later on are wonderful in their own way.
(Omitted)
Now that I am an adult, I have lost school. The school I used to look forward to every day is no longer there. From the time I entered the working world until today, I have worked in solitude. Even so, looking back, the reason I was able to keep working with all my strength was that I had so many wonderful companions. The natural, unforced days I spent with them have become a vast ground supporting my life. And I am a single tree growing vigorously from that earth. My roots are connected to them, while I reach upward toward the sky.
(From Tsuji Hitonari, “I Was There”)
(Note 1) 反発する: to resist and refuse to accept
(Note 2) 思い知らされる: to be made to realize something strongly
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